31 Days to a Better Body Body: Day 7 – Let It Go
When it comes to people I love, I’m a major somewhat of a control freak.
Don’t believe me?
I have goodbye letters written to all my family members and directions on how to “run my funeral” if I should die an untimely death. Where to find pictures, who to contact to put together a slide show should Brent and I leap into the next realm together, who might want to share a few words. It’s all in a fire proof safe.
Told ya.
I did write all those letters and “directions” when Brent and I traveled to China, India, and South Africa to shoot a documentary without our children. But still…I don’t think “funeral directions” are something everyone writes. When my boys were little I would type hour by hour instructions for the babysitters. Don’t worry, I’m saving for their therapy.
Why?
Fear. I’m afraid of pain, loss, essentially I’m afraid of, losing control.
The thing is control is an illusion.
There are no guarantees no matter the precautions that are taken.
The reality is an apple a day may or may not keep the doctor away
For someone like me, it’s necessary to learn to loosen the the knot or else I’ll slowly strangle myself trying to “stay safe”.
For sanity, for peace, for health, it’s important to learn to let it go.
When I let it go my body relaxes and I can almost hear each cell breath a sigh of relief.
The older I grow the easier it becomes.
Let it go. It may or may not add years but it will certainly add happiness.
It takes practice but what a feeling.
Breathe deep and trust.
The sun always rises and always sets.
Let it go.
Hugs and High Fives,
Jenn
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I know this isn’t the point of your post, but I think having instructions is a great idea. I was just talking with my mom about this, and she knows of a family that lost both parents, and three years later, there is still fighting and bitterness about where things go, who gets what, etc.
You’re a smart cookie, you know.
My hubby was preparing his Sunday school lesson this morning and shared this with me: “Some frustrations we must endure without really solving the problem. Some things that ought to be put in order are not put in order because we cannot control them. Things we cannot solve, we must survive.” (That was from one of our church leaders, Boyd K Packer):
I had been through a 12-step program where the Serenity Prayer was always said, “God, grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Yet, I have such a hard time of “letting it go…”
You offer another great reminder today!
so very true. learning to let it GO added years to my life….or how I feel about my life anyway
I have become much less anal about control as I’ve gotten older. Less of a perfectionist. Less stressed about most things. MOrbid as it might sound I love your pre-arranged funeral- we should all do it- Derek has told me the musical piece he wants.